Steps to Stop a Divorce

No one fancies the idea of a divorce after a long, committed union with a significant other. People marry because they want to spend the rest of their lives with a special someone they love. 

That’s why at the mention of divorce, everything turns upside down. Your sense of normalcy might be impacted, and you might be to experience emotional and mental stress. According to an expert, there are only two scenarios where you cannot save your marriage: When you no longer communicate with your partner or when they have moved on to someone else. 

If that isn’t the case, you can still salvage your marriage and prevent a divorce. Here’s how: 

━ Identify the Root of Your Partner’s Feelings

It’s okay to be scared when your partner wants a divorce. However, this isn’t entirely certain that the divorce might happen eventually. You need to take some time to understand your partner’s stance before making any decision. 

Is there something you might be doing wrong? Are they dealing with something significant that they might want out? Get to the root of your partner’s grouse. 

If your partner comes around to explain why they feel like calling it quits, listen to what they’re saying before responding. Do not assume responsibility for your partner’s feelings and emotions. 

See things from their perspective, but do not neglect your own stance. Thus, you should be emphatic when trying to understand your partner’s opinions.

━ Clarify What Needs to Change

After listening to your partner air out their grievances, you should make a comprehensive list. This list should include complaints, disagreements, and differences in opinions. Review this list with your partner so that you leave nothing out. 

You and your partner should discuss the listed things and identify the solution. After which, you can map out an action plan to ensure the issues mentioned don’t occur in the future. Remember that this is a collaborative process and not a single person affair. 

Working together to make things will strengthen your marriage more than ever before.

━ Spend Quality Time Together

Being married for a long time may make you oblivious to some of the issues resulting in divorce. When stuff like financial responsibilities, work schedules, kids, and other needs take the limelight, you and your partner may not be spending quality time together.

Spending time with your partner should not be a luxury but a necessity. Take time out of your busy schedules to go on dates, plan romantic getaways, and enjoy intimacy. These are the spices that make a relationship last a lifetime. 

You can take small steps such as kissing them every morning and before bedtime. Gestures such as cuddling, holding hands, making love, and little acts of kindness go a long way to make your marriage formidable. 

Love is worth fighting for. If you’ve ever felt doubts about your marriage, you should talk it out and seek guidance from a divorce and relationship coach. I currently run sessions where I help my clients better understand themselves to sort out internal issues that might threaten their union.

You can place a call to me to learn how I can help you navigate any hurdles you might face.