When you’re in love, you’re blind to many things. Especially if you’re dating to married to a narcissist. Everything will seem normal at first, and you might readily spot some of the negative signs until it is too late. 

Over time, your relationship and marriage might spiral out of control, turning into an unhealthy partnership. However, it is vital to spot some of a narcissist’s love patterns so you can break away. But first things first: 

━ Who is a Narcissist?

A narcissist is a person who has a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with NPD have an over-exaggerated sense of self-importance. They are usually preoccupied with delusions of power, brilliance, beauty, and success. 

More often than not, they have an enormous sense of entitlement and exploitative habits. By default, they’re arrogant and think themselves better than their partners or anyone. It is crucial you know if you’re dating a narcissist. 

There are several love patterns they exhibit throughout the relationship or marriage. You should be mindful of these signs: 

━ They Want Attention All the Time

There’s nothing narcissists love more than attention from their partners. It’s okay to want your partner’s care, attention, and affection. But needing it all the time – especially when such attention isn’t reciprocated – is a huge problem. 

A narcissist will want to insert themselves into your daily routine. They’d want you to call and text them every minute to boost their bloated ego. In some cases, they’d want to learn about the horrible things that may have happened to you in the past – even if you don’t feel like sharing. 

They always want to make you feel like they’re the solution to every problem you face. You start indulging them to the point where you can’t make personal decisions for yourself. 

━ They Avoid Responsibilities

A narcissist doesn’t like the idea of taking responsibility for their actions and inactions. They, directly and indirectly, push the blame on others, particularly their partners. 

You should understand that narcissists see themselves as always correct, no matter what they do. If you’re currently dating or married to a narcissist, you will notice that it’s not their fault when something wrong happens that they caused. 

Because they feel superior, they’d constantly make every issue your fault to sort out. 

━ Manipulation is Second Nature to Them

Being in love with a narcissist opens you up to manipulation. They play the emotional and mental cards quickly on you till you no longer serve their purpose, and they’d let you go. 

At first, they’d shower you with love and compliments to make you attached to them. After which, they’d slowly ‘devalue’ you in their eyes, belittling your input in the relationship. 

To measure up to their standards, you’d unknowingly begin to play to their whims, losing bits of yourself in the process. 

When you encounter these love patterns, what do you do? Seek professional help. 

I run a Conscious Uncoupling program that will help you learn conscious ways to break away from a narcissistic partner. More, you’d learn how to rediscover your worth, find fulfillment, and enjoy life and love on your own terms. 

Book a free 30 minutes call with me to learn about your current situation and how I can help you.